Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say
On the road to building personal integrity and developing trust and respect between mutual parties in communications, it is important that you say what you mean, mean what you say and be kind when you say it. Further, align with your words by representing yourself as you really are, and doing what you said you were going to do. When you do communicate, reflect upon the intention of the words you choose as being honest, truthful, and trustworthy, as these qualities build strong inner and outer personal integrity.
Being Truthful and Honest is the foundation for developing all human Virtues. When we are truthful and honest it is possible to connect with our highest spiritual attributes, the inner Christ spirit, which develops our innate divine qualities, or virtues.
If you fail to reach impeccable consistency with what you mean to express honestly with your word, this damages credibility with others, and leaves a trail of broken promises that break trust and erode personal integrity. When we are being truthful and honest in more blunt conversations, we also need to manage emotions and be prepared to hear feedback that we may not like. People can be triggered when they have unresolved pain hidden in certain topics, so remembering to always be kind and sensitive to help manage the emotions involved when approaching challenging topics.
Counterfeit Conversations and Self-Regulation
In everyday communication it is very common that people engage in fake conversations to avoid facing conflicts or challenging topics, because they fear the ramifications from what they say. Many people avoid conflicts and run away from saying things that need to be expressed, because they take things too personally and don’t know how to emotionally self-regulate. In considering the impact of choosing to participate in counterfeit conversations, this engages with the root of dishonesty when avoiding saying something that needs to be said when there are conflicts that need to be addressed. Ignoring the issues and dancing around the conflict when you know they are present, will only exacerbate the problem, inviting in dark forces of confusion and chaos. To avoid fake conversations generated on autopilot, take a moment to reflect and to consider a more accurate and truthful way to reply.
When we are congruent with our speech, words, behavior and actions simultaneously, our body language, words, tone, facial expressions become integrated and coherent. If you pay attention to the energetic subtleties revealed in body language, all of the patterns in the person’s expression are matching in a congruent way. Conversely it is made clear when these patterns do not match, revealing that something is off kilter and not congruent within that person. This is usually because the person feels unsafe, their nervous system is in fight-flight and they have to hide behind a façade, with a false identity that engages in counterfeit conversations.
We begin to increase our ability to trust ourselves and live in alignment to our authentic nature when we start being fully present in our communications, by saying what we really mean in order to reflect our personal integrity.